Today one of my fellow authors Cindy Flores Martinez stopped by my blog to chat about love at first sight. I am such a romantic at heart that when Cindy first told me about the post subject, I was eager to have her over. So, without any further ado… please take it over, Cindy.
You know the feeling. Your eyes meet his. Your heart starts beating faster as a rush of emotions race through your body. You feel nervous and flustered. Maybe it’s his smile that made you feel that way, or the way he looked at you, or what he said, or all of the above. There’s something about him that stands out among the rest. You don’t know him yet, but in that instant you know you would like to.
Call me a hopeless romantic, but I am a strong believer in love at first sight. I think we all have a sixth sense that can tell us things about others that we can’t see on the surface, especially when it comes to love. It’s just a feeling we get, and we’re often right. I remember walking into a small store one day and glancing across the room at the guy working behind the counter. The world seemed to stand still as I found myself instantly attracted to him. Our stares met several times while I shopped through the aisles. As I paid for the items that I had laid on the counter, I noticed everything about him — his smile, his hands, his voice, his quiet demeanor, and even the dirt on his white t-shirt from working in that dusty place. Everything about him was so imperfect. There were better looking men out there, some who had expressed interest in me, but this guy was the one for me. Something inside of me knew it, and I was right. We spent years together.
I know I’m not the only one who has ever had an experience like that. I’ve heard countless stories throughout my life of people who knew that the person who was standing in front of them was “the one”. At first, you’re attracted to that person, but you get to know him or her and discover that you’re made for each other. There was something inside of you that knew it before you actually knew it.
What do you call that kind of feeling? Is it love? Is it just a coincidence? Whatever it is, I chose to celebrate it in my novel Mail-Order Groom, but I found that writing about it wasn’t so easy. Krzysztof sees Lisa from across the room and falls in love with her just like I fell in love with my guy. When you’re experiencing it, you know it’s love, but when you’re reading about it, the feeling can easily sound more like infatuation.
As a reader, when does it feel to you as if it’s love between two characters in a story? Does it happen at a certain point? Do a specific number of conversations or experiences need to happen between them? Is there a difference between love in fiction and love in real life? Does love at first sight even exist? What are your thoughts on the subject?
Cindy Flores Martinez is the author of Mail-Order Groom, a romantic comedy, inspired by the author’s own Polish ancestry. The novel is based on her screenplay and movie project of the same title, which she shopped around Hollywood, New York, and other parts of the world. It is a story about an American woman who marries a stranger from Poland after her fiancé leaves her right before the wedding.
Lisa is about to marry her first real love and have the wedding of her dreams, but her world is shattered when she finds her fiancé, Jeff, in the arms of another woman. When he calls the wedding off, Lisa is heartbroken.
In a twist of fate, she meets Krzysztof Zielinski from Poland on Mail-Order-Grooms.Com. He needs to marry an American woman so that he can stay in America, and he’s willing to pay money for it, but his reason for needing to stay is what tugs at Lisa’s heart. She decides to say “I do” to him. After all, it’s going to be strictly a business deal. She won’t even have to live with him, and marrying another man would be the perfect revenge on Jeff after the hurtful way he treated her.
Lisa races to the altar with her stand-in groom, but she soon learns that she actually does have to live with him. Things become even more complicated after she finds herself falling for him when he’s not planning to stay in America forever. Will Lisa’s heart break all over again or will she find love and happiness in the end?
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